3 Simple Things Your Wife Needs To Hear From You
If you’re a husband who wants to encourage your wife but aren’t always sure what to say, you’re not alone. A lot of guys feel that way. The good news? It’s not about having the perfect words. It’s about being intentional and honest.
Here are 3 things your wife needs to hear regularly, and how to make them part of your everyday life:
1. “I love it when you ________.”
Why it matters:
This simple phrase shows your wife that you see her, the real her. It’s about more than just compliments. It’s about paying attention and showing appreciation for the little things that make her who she is.
How to say it:
Fill in the blank with something specific. Think about the things she does that make you smile, even if they seem small.
“I love it when you laugh at your own jokes.”
“I love it when you leave notes in my lunch.”
“I love it when you dance around the kitchen.”
Start paying attention. Take mental notes. And when the moment feels right, say it out loud. You’ll remind her that she’s known, loved, and appreciated.
2. “Thank you for ________.”
Why it matters:
Everyone wants to feel appreciated. When you thank your wife, you’re telling her you don’t take her for granted. It’s a small gesture with a big impact.
How to say it:
Think beyond the obvious. Be specific and sincere.
“Thank you for handling bedtime when I was wiped out.”
“Thank you for always remembering the little things.”
“Thank you for sticking with me through hard days.”
Make it a daily habit. Pick one thing she did today, even if it seems routine, and thank her for it.
3. “I need you.”
Why it matters:
Your wife wants to know that she matters to you, not just as your partner, but as someone you truly value and desire. Saying “I need you” tells her she’s essential to your life—not optional.
How to say it:
This one requires vulnerability.
“I need you. I’m better when we’re connected.”
“I need you today. Just your presence helps me reset.”
“I need you. Not just for the big stuff, but the everyday things too.”
Let her know she’s not second to your job, your hobbies, or your schedule. Tell her. Show her. Prioritize her.
You don’t have to be a poet or a romantic expert. You just have to be intentional.
Pick one of the phrases above and say it today. Watch how it shifts the tone between you. Then do it again tomorrow. Use words to build. Not tear down. That’s the goal.
