3 Reasons Marriage Feels Hard Sometimes
Marriage isn’t about finding the perfect person; it’s about becoming the right partner. If you want a strong, lasting relationship, it helps to start with honest expectations. These three truths are part of every marriage and understanding them can make all the difference.
1. Marriage Reveals Your Flaws, And Helps Heal Them
Everyone brings something into marriage: past wounds, habits, and gaps in understanding. No one is immune. But marriage, when approached with humility and love, becomes a place of healing and transformation.
What this means for you:
You won’t always understand your spouse, and that’s normal.
Marriage will bring things to the surface, not to shame you, but to grow you.
You and your spouse have what the other needs to grow, if you’re both willing to show up, stay humble, and love each other through the process.
2. Commitment Gets Tested More Than You Expect
A lasting marriage isn’t about never having problems; it’s about how you respond to them. If you’re halfway out the door, every issue feels like a reason to leave. But when you’re truly committed, you fight for solutions, not exits.
What this means for you:
Treat marriage like something you own, not something you rent.
Problems aren’t a sign that you married the wrong person, they’re an invitation to work together.
The couples who make it aren’t the luckiest, they’re the most committed.
3. Every Marriage Faces Spiritual Resistance
Marriage isn’t just a relationship, it’s a spiritual target. It brings strength, unity, and healing, which is exactly why it’s attacked.
What this means for you:
Stay aware of what’s working against your connection, not just what’s wrong between you.
Don’t waste energy fighting each other, focus on protecting your unity.
You have spiritual authority. Stand firm in truth, stay connected, and protect your unity.
Marriage takes effort, but it’s worth it. Walk in with clarity, stay committed through the ups and downs, and guard your relationship with grace and truth. With the right mindset and tools, your marriage can thrive.
